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Question DetailsAsked on 5/5/2011

I Wish My Neighbors Were Neighborly

I live in an Arizona community with not one but two HOAs, a community I thought would surely be made up of people who were here to stay, to put down roots, who wanted to be 'neighborly' and how wrong I was! I find myself picking up garbage that has fallen from their cans and into the street, garbage they could easily pick up themselves but don't (while they're washing and waxing their trucks and SUVs), making repairs from which they will benefit like putting mortar between the blocks on our adjacent walls so that our walls won't collapse, delivering mail directly to them when it's been sent to me by mistake (which is often), and yet no one, even the single women like me, seem to want to have anything to do with one another, to be 'friends' or to be anything. No one has anything to do with another or wants to, and I have no idea why. Why were there communities and neighborly neighbors back East but not here in Arizona? I'e been here 33 years and the only neighborly people I've met are Arizona natives, not people who, like me, moved here from somewhere else. Is this always going to be the case in Arizona? And why? I really miss having neighborly neighbors

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    I guess there isn't much you can do unless you move. I recently read an interesting article about something called co-housing.


    "People attracted to co-housing merely want people around them who will be good, helpful neighbors with sensibilities that enrich their quality of life. These neighbors won’t crank their woofers to uncivilized levels at oh-dark-thirty. They offer help when it looks like it’s needed, offer to take in the paper when you’re away, share tools and advice and watch someone else’s kid for a while and share their extra zucchini before it becomes a billy club."

    Here is the article where I originally learned about this.

    http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/10212/...


    Here is the national organization.

    http://www.cohousing.org/


    Good luck. I sympathize.

    Answered 7 years ago by jeffinpittsburgh

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    Hi, I also live in Arizona! I've been here for about 7 years, or close to it?? I have the SAME problem!! My neighbors are either drunks, or druggies,liars or theives..I could go on! Im a stay at home mom, I own no dogs, and my kids are 12 and 17. My husbands is gone working alot, so getting to know the neighbors is important to me, as well. I moved here from Colorado. We live in a very nice housing track , where you would expect people to be greetful and nice but "NO" they are so rude!!!!! You think they would wave to you as you drive by (I always wave a hello to my neighbors and smile. they look at me with horrible loooks on there faces as if I killed there dog! I always say

    Im not gonna wave anymore ,but I still do and get nothing back??? In Colorado everybody would greet, stop by and say Hello if you were out washing your car or planting flowers..ect... But not here in Arziona???? I don't get it? and can't move..... I can completely understand you, it is almost hard to admit but it hurts my feelings.

    Answered 7 years ago by dragonfly

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    Neighbor wars are so devastating and exhausting...=/ I understand all of you...

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    Answered 7 years ago by mischelle




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