@the member who wrote that she found this string offensive and asked that it be taken down: I see your point that it has the potential to launch a stream of hate talk, but what if it is used in an earnest way? I cannot speak for the original poster's intentions, but I have been looking for a good anonymous forum to ask for neighborly advice about dealing with neighbors because I am a first-time homeowner. my husband and I bought a fixer-upper on a city corner--a decision that has yeilded an intense all-absorbing venture of time, focus and money for over two years now. we are still going. I do nothing else. that's okay. I just mean to say that I am invested.
our property neighbors a large victorian on either side. one had been built out long ago and split into somewhere between eight and six condos--only one is owner occupied. while the building is not in great repair, this is completely acceptable in our city, which is a college town and requires many units for rent. besides, our house (still a single family) was in deplorable condition when we bought it. we never would have been able to afford a large home in this area otherwise.
the neighbor on our other side was also kept as a single family. on it's original lot. more or less, one of the biggest mansions with the most beautifully-kept grounds you can imagine. there was a football field of gorgeous garden between this lady's home and ours, letting in tons of light, privacy and quiet. it was ideal. and then, she passed away. she had no heirs. her property was estate liquidated to fund whatever cause she had left the rest of her great wealth to and a developer purchased the home and lot. he built the entire lot out into three single family sized condos, pulled down the gorgeous trees and grounds and added an enormous parking garage blocking all of the light and view we had for our bedroom and kitchen. he made these three homes into a gated community with a giant iron automated fence like you might see outside, for example, the home of a crime boss. in the third world.
he re-graded the whole property to drain into our (nonconforming, so their parking garage pretty much lines up with our foundation) lot. we had some words during this time, as he specifically promised me when he began that I would still have good light enough to grow trees when he was done... that did not happen. so, as a "gift" (his words) because all I can see after our big kitchen and master rennovation is the backside of a new construction parking lot, he planted 5 or 6 arborvitea next to the garage --right in front of the door to our house. so--there will be "green" per his promise. it is just not viewable to us other than as a fast growing wall that will block out the rest of the morning sun, just in case we wanted to leave the house to dodge the big shadow enveloping our home every morning.
in August the trees began growing cones. cones don't grow on arborvitae, but these trees were covered with them. Guess what? not cones. Bag worm. what some people I have showed refer to as "the single worst infestation they have ever seen...including photographs in books". I guess they were brought up from the south, or someplace where they are a bigger problem. but I have never seen them in this state, let alone the city. it turns out, the only way to kill them is hardcore toxic spray. regularly. outside my door. I reported the issue to his voice mail and email just in case he wasn't aware. have heard nothing.
now. what. do. I. do? by the way, the pride and joy of my very small yard is a corner of mature conifer. plus I am having more plantings installed this month as we start to tackle the exterior renovation. my request is sincere. I'm so mad that I'm almost afraid to approach the giant electronic gate of the "closed community" next door. the arborvitae are in the corner of the yard furthest away from where they would ever venture. my guess is that they won't care and that I will make a poor impression and burst into tears.